Asking for a number is a tiny risk with a simple rule: do it when the conversation has energy, not as a last resort when it is dying. Momentum is the whole game.
Frame it as the natural next step with a reason attached, moving off the app, making plans, sending something funny. Casual ask, casual stakes.
The best moment is right after a great exchange, a shared joke or solid back-and-forth. Never ask to rescue a dead thread.
I am barely on this app, or easier to plan Friday over text, gives the ask a natural purpose and makes yes easy.
A confident, casual ask is easy to accept and easy to laugh off. Do not make it a big formal moment.
After a few quality exchanges, usually within a day or two of solid conversation. Wait too long and the energy fades, ask too fast and it feels like a mass move.
Stay relaxed: no worries, here is mine whenever, and keep chatting. Pressure kills it. Grace keeps the door open.
Offering yours is a softer move that gives them control. It works well if they seem cautious, but a direct ask shows more confidence.